˜ "Something that I learned in my past relationship is that I think we were making two halves into a whole when we were together and the biggest thing I recognized is that wasn't a healthy thing. You end up relying too much on the other person to make you whole, so when I lost that, I felt like a piece of myself was ripped out of me. Not just her leaving; I put too much of our relationship into making up my own identity of who I was as a person. I think a much healthier way to go about being in a loving relationship like that is feeling more full in yourself. We all have things that we need to work on and we all have our own issues about ourself like how we treat others, how we treat ourselves or whatever it might be and the more you've worked on that before entering a strong relationship, the happier you'll be. Instead of two halves making a whole, you have two wholes just together. You don't need that other person to make you feel happy. Instead you are creating your own happiness and sharing it with the other person." ˜
As a Chapman University Alumni, I love that Nicholas, a senior filmmaker, reached out to meet up and talk over coffee! He is working on a film about love and relationships called Where You Burn It. Feel free to check out their page on the link below!
Portola Coffee Lab / Orange, CA